My Story

My name is Sariel Beckenstein the creator of “Attracting the Love of Your Dreams.” I work with individuals who are tired and frustrated that they are not in a loving relationship. They haven’t lost faith but feel lost when it comes to the “how to” of finding Mr. or Ms. Right.

*** MY STORY ***

I was an average guy, living in NYC. As big as the city was, that’s how lonely I was.

I hated bars and parties, so I looked for small gatherings at peoples’ homes or at the gay
synagogue to meet my potential boyfriend. I joined some dating services (this was pre-Internet),
but I was attracting the wrong men. I couldn’t seem to go beyond one or two, maybe three dates
with the same person.
One day, a friend of mine gave me this great book about how to attract a soul mate. I read the
book in one day and did all the exercises that were offered. My favorite one was making a list of
all the attributes I wanted in a boyfriend. My list had two parts – the “have to have”s, and the
“nice to have”s. I kept reading the list daily. I even had it under my pillow! (Someone told me it
helps the subconscious.) I met people, but I was still attracting the wrong guys. Eventually, I
stopped thinking about my list.

I was in therapy at the time, and I got in touch with all my limiting beliefs around meeting Mr.
Right. I realized that I had many doubts, and many limiting beliefs:
• I haven’t been able to date properly, so I will never be able to in the future.
• I am an average looking guy, so no one will want me.
• I don’t deserve to have a relationship.
My list went on and on.

Through many sessions, I was able to bust these beliefs, and sure enough, I got better in my
dating skills. I met more appropriate men. I dated them for a month, 6 weeks, 3 months, but
none of them were the right guy. Some had 5 or even 6 of the attributes I was looking for, but not
quite my whole list.

In March of 1996, I went to a meeting at the gay and lesbian center in NYC, and there I met
Jerry. We dated casually for 6 or 7 months, really got to know each other, and then decided that
we want to date exclusively. One day, after we had moved in together, I found my old list. Jerry
had every attribute I was looking for – including the “nice to have”s! We have now been
married for almost 16 years, and been together for 18.

One day after we had already moved in together, I found the list I wrote back in 1995. Jerry had every attribute on the list I was looking for, including the part of it that was not a must!

So how did I become a relationship architect?

I have a desire and a dream that every person on the planet finds their soul mate. When I
see people I know and care about, my first question is, “How’s your relationship going?” And if
you are not in one, I will ask you what are doing about it.

Years after earning a degree in Business, I became a life coach because I am committed to
helping people create a relationship they love. Integrated into a system I created, distilled from
my own experience and studies, I use a variety of modalities including:
• The Gestalt part of “Rubefeld Synergy” (a body mind integration)
• Elements of the Law of Attraction
• EFT – Emotional Freedom Technique (a tapping method)

Attracting the Love of Your Dreams Workshop was originally created in 2008, and continued to
improve and transform into the workshop it is today.

Learn more about the step-by-step technology for Attracting the Love of Your Dreams in
workshops or private coaching.